Two things have come my way on the Internet recently. Two things that have made me stop, clasp my hands together, and throw them to the heavens, shouting, “YES!” (You know, Emoji style.)
I’m a sucker for a good TED Talk, and as a recently-turned-30-year-old, I had to click on this one.
At about the 9:50 mark, Jay knocks it out of the park, outlining 3 things that 20-somethings need to hear. I am not a 20-something. I loved them still. You could make an endless supply of Etsy prints or Pinterest quotes with the gems Jay delivers throughout her talk.
My rule of life, in just about any situation, is don’t be an idiot. It’s simple, and fairly easy to live by. However, if you wanted to go a little deeper, and get to know me better, you could also click on that link above. Because manners can solve just about all of life’s problems. I’m giving serious thought to memorizing this paragraph of Ford’s piece, and reciting in my head when I feel stressed, or frustrated, or just about anything that makes my heart rate quicken. This is my truth, right here. And the truth is beautiful. I’ve heard it can set you free.
People silently struggle from all kinds of terrible things. They suffer from depression, ambition, substance abuse, and pretension. They suffer from family tragedy, Ivy-League educations, and self-loathing. They suffer from failing marriages, physical pain, and publishing. The good thing about politeness is that you can treat these people exactly the same. And then wait to see what happens. You don’t have to have an opinion. You don’t need to make a judgment. I know that doesn’t sound like liberation, because we live and work in an opinion-based economy. But it is. Not having an opinion means not having an obligation. And not being obligated is one of the sweetest of life’s riches.