So I’m sitting in my Wednesday moms’ group, talking about ways we take care of ourselves, and I’m sharing what I’ve learned about Sabbath, about intentionally leaving one day free of obligations and commitments so that it can be what I want it to be instead of what it has to be (I truly think this idea is genius, and this podcast was a great listen for me).
Then another mom echoes my thoughts, and shares that for her family, that day has always been Sunday. They go to church in the morning, and then it’s a day for family time. She said her daughters know that if they get invited to a birthday party on a Sunday, they understand that they probably won’t be going. That a lot of birthday parties her girls get invited to are those, “invite the whole class,” kinds of birthdays, and she feels comfortable turning those down. I nod my head in agreement, because that makes sense to me.
And then I find this post, from one of my most favorite blogs, What Would Gwyneth Do? all about saying yes to birthdays. Because some kids are just waiting for a classmate to say yes. Because inviting the whole class is a display of kindness that not everyone shows. And again, I’m nodding my head in agreement, this makes perfect sense, too. And it sounds a lot like celebrating everything, which we know is something I’m into.
This is about the 800th reminder to me this week alone that there is no right and wrong, good and bad, black and white way to be a family. What works for one unit doesn’t work for another. One family has a great reason to turn down Sunday birthdays. Another has a great reason to gratefully accept all the invitations they can. When birthday party season hits us (preschool? kindergarten?) I don’t know where we’ll come down in terms of our RSVPs. But I am forever grateful for the moms who share the real whys behind their choices.